Setting boundaries is a part of our lives that is too often overlooked. Why should we allow others to make us feel uncomfortable or change for their interests? This is a vital part of a healthy and organized lifestyle. If your friends want to go out to the bar during your gym time or the only time you must rest, learn to say no.
When someone needs a favor that fits into their schedule but not yours, learn to say no. Saying no to someone does not make you any less kind or helpful. Sometimes we stretch ourselves thin in order to satisfy the needs of others not realizing that we are essentially pouring energy out from our cup and into someone else’s cup. Eventually, the cup is empty. When the cup is empty, we no longer are ourselves.
That being said, there is a huge difference from doing acts of kindness and going out of your way to make someone’s day. However, if you find yourself low in funds or energy but are spending money on people who are just using you or doing favors for those same people, you find yourself caught in an endless loop. You can escape from this loop. It is never too late to make the change(s) that will change your life for the better. When we change our lives for the better, those around you will also benefit.
You are not selfish for making a change. You are finally taking a stand against yourself. Not the others you were set to please, but the part of you that was justifying behavior that negatively affected your life. It is ok to skip a night out to go to the gym and then catch up on sleep. You will constantly find yourself seeking an unattainable balance between one lifestyle and another. Set goals and don’t allow distractions to get in the way of those goals. You can achieve what you want when you focus on one task at a time. The future you seek is right around the corner, just take the first step.